Families

We Are Resilient™
for Parents, Caregivers, and Families

We Are Resilient™

  • Helps your family members navigate daily stressors and unexpected changes such as working and going to school virtually due to COVID-19.
  • Enhances family connectivity by providing researched-based practical skills to handle conflict more effectively.
  • Explores resilience in a deeper more meaningful way to help grow personal resilience, relational resilience, and your family’s group resilience.
  • Identifies common reactionary patterns and gives skills to help you move from reactivity to choice.
  • Includes family activities to help your children gain resilience and strengthen family bonds.
  • Provides a common language to strengthen communication and greater self awareness.
“This approach presented an easily accessible framework of concepts and practices to help me both identify patterns in my thinking and behavior that reduce resilience, and practices to help me move beyond them. I look forward to sharing the information with my family. Participating in the Circle was a positive learning experience!” ~ Mother of 3

The We Are Resilient™ Approach

We Are Resilient™ offers simple, effective, and research-based skills that help parents and caregivers cope with stress and share these skills with the children in their homes. These skills help us Center, Connect, and Collaborate. To use Resilience Skills most effectively, we also have to develop an awareness of both our Protective Patterns — which inform how we react to the world, and our Cultural Patterns — which inform how we view the world.

Step 1: Develop Awareness of Our Patterns

Noticing our Cultural Patterns

When Connecting or Collaborating, we are more effective with strong Cultural Resilience. We acknowledge our Cultural Patterns that have been passed down through the generations, as well as seek to understand the patterns of others. Cultural Patterns can be: 
  • Helpful in navigating our world
  • Sources of strength, belonging, and celebration
  • Perpetuating racism and discrimination
Assessed for each situation: Is my judgment helping or making it worse?

Noticing our Protective Patterns

Protective Patterns
When facing a challenge, our initial response can be a common pattern of reactive resilience. These default reactions can be:
• Normal under stress
• Developed as protective mechanism
• Helpful in certain circumstances
• Limiting for us
• Assessed for each situation: Is my reaction helping or making it worse?

Step 2: Choose Resilience Skills

Skills for Centering Myself

Centering Skills
When facing a challenge, we can choose our Centering Skills to mindfully engage our Personal Resilience. These skills can:
  • Restore inner balance
  • Relieve stress and anxiety
  • Reduce negative thoughts
  • Enable focus on the present
  • Support pursuit of goals

Skills for Connecting with Others

Connecting Skills
When a relationship is experiencing difficulties, we can choose our Connecting Skills to grow our Relational Resilience. These skills can:
  • Create safety, trust, and belonging
  • Enable an open mind and curiosity
  • Reduce blame, judgement, and bias
  • Encourage equity

Skills for Collaborating Together

Collaborating Skills
When a group is not working well together, we can choose our Collaborating Skills to strengthen Group Resilience. These skills can:
  • Foster a shared vision
  • Honor contributions of all
  • Encourage healthy boundaries
  • Create shared accountability
  • Support pursuit of common goals