At the beginning of the summer, my friend Ralph shared an article he had written about goals. āBy the end of the summer, I want to be able to say I did ______.ā
As someone who likes to set goals and accomplish them, I took the prompt seriously. I knew I could come up with a list of self-improvement goals, but something didnāt sit right. Eventually, I recognized my block: I didnāt need a new list of tasks to accomplish. What I needed was space. Space for delight. Space for joy.
The last two years have felt particularly difficult. I cared for my mother through her Alzheimerās and end-of-life journey, sorted through nearly six decades of family history in our home, and navigated my husbandās multiple health crises. My spirit, understandably, had become worn down. What I needed most this summer was not productivityābut replenishment.
So I set a new intention: Say yes to joy. And let me tell youāit has felt glorious. š¤©
~ Try a new hiking trail? Yes!
~ Plan a midweek trip to see a friend star in her first professional play? Yes!
~ Host a spontaneous dinner and game night? Yes!
~ Lend a hand on a big project? Yes!
~ Dance barefoot in the kitchen? Yes!
~ Enjoy a vineyard picnic and a Shakespeare play? Yes!
~ See Bobby McFerrin perform at a midday Monday concert? Absolutely, yes!
Of course, life hasnāt been all sunshineāchallenges still show up, as they always do. But choosing to say yes to joy has become a powerful act of self-nurturing. Itās filling my resilience bucket and gently guiding me back to the person I want to be.
What might you say yes to this season? ā¤ļø
With resilience,
Meri and the Dovetail Learning team
P.S. To those fighting oppression, know that choosing joy is also an act of resistance.